Why Forgiveness Is Important In Childhood Trauma

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Greetings to All You Female Resilient Spirits,

As a dedicated Childhood Trauma Expert, Inner Resilience and Wellness Specialist for women, I’ve witnessed the profound journey of healing that countless women embark upon.

One of the most pivotal aspects of this journey is understanding and embracing forgiveness—not just as a moral choice, but as an essential step towards healing and prosperity. Today, let’s explore why forgiveness is crucial in overcoming the shadows of childhood trauma.

The Power of Forgiveness in Healing

Forgiveness, is often misunderstood, is not about condoning hurtful behaviour or forgetting the past. It’s about freeing yourself from the burden of resentment and allowing yourself to heal and move forward.

It’s definitely a process I’ve had to work through and it’s been layers upon layers of forgiveness. The biggest impact has been to free me from the weight of my past trauma so I can live my best and most fulfilling life.

Why Forgive?

  1. Releases Emotional Chains: Holding onto anger and bitterness can keep you locked in the past. Forgiveness helps release these toxic emotions, reducing stress and enhancing your mental health.
  2. Regains Personal Power: Forgiveness allows you to reclaim control over your life. It shifts the focus from the perpetrator and the pain they caused, back to your own life and well-being.
  3. Promotes Physical Health: Chronic anger and stress can have negative effects on your body, including increased risk of heart disease and other illnesses, including some autoimmune illnesses and fibromyalgia. Forgiving can lead to lower blood pressure, improved heart health, and a stronger immune system.
  4. Encourages Emotional and Psychological Healing: Forgiveness can pave the way for emotional and psychological healing by clearing the path of lingering resentments. It opens up a space for more positive and constructive emotions and more fulfilled relationships.

How to Embrace Forgiveness?

Forgiving is not a straightforward path and it doesn’t happen overnight. It requires patience, courage, and often, guidance. Here’s how to start:

  • Acknowledge the Hurt: Allow yourself to fully acknowledge the trauma and its impact on your life without minimizing or rationalizing it.
  • Decide to Forgive: Forgiveness is a choice. It is a commitment you make to not let the past dictate your future happiness.
  • Understand the Other’s Perspective: Sometimes, understanding the circumstances or limitations of the person who hurt you can aid in the forgiveness process. This isn’t about excusing their behaviour, but about seeing them as a not-perfect human being.
  • Seek Professional Help: Engaging with a childhood trauma expert who can provide support, strategies and a safe space to deal with deep-seated emotions and complex trauma.
  • Practice Empathy and Compassion: For yourself and for others. Remember, forgiveness is also about extending compassion to oneself, not just to those who might have caused the hurt.

Conclusion: Forging a Path Forward

Forgiving is one of the most powerful acts of kindness you can give to yourself. It is an act of liberation that can significantly contribute to your emotional, psychological, and physical health. As you consider incorporating forgiveness into your healing process, remember that this is about your journey, your healing, and your future.

I encourage each of you to explore forgiveness not as a requirement, but as an opportunity—an opportunity to heal deeply and to create a life defined not by past wounds, but by current resilience and future possibilities.

With warmth and faith,

Sarah Rees-Evans
Childhood Trauma, Inner Resilience and Wellness Specialist for Women

PS. I love to stay connected with my community on Instagram, so I can support you in your journey even more. If this feels right, I’d love to invite you – Instagram https://www.instagram.com/withcoachsarah/

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